Tuesday, July 31, 2012

OVERCOMING PORNOGRAPHY…




OVERCOMING PORNOGRAPHY…
There are hundreds of people who get off on pornography, and many are addicted to the movies and images. They find them exciting, erotic and many end up also getting addicted to masturbation as a way of fulfilling their sexual appetites while watching the videos.
Just as there are many people addicted to porno, deep down I know there are just as many people who want out. Who want to get away from the addiction and lead different lifestyles? If you are one of those who want to stop, truth is, the journey can be difficult, and just like any other addiction recovery is. The story of leading gospel musician Kirk Franklin is an example, but he beat his addiction and so can you.
HERE ARE A FEW TIPS THAT CAN GET YOU STARTED ON YOUR JOURNEY…
1.    Destroy all sources of porno in your possession. Delete the internet videos and images. You may be tempted to keep some of the images but if you are genuinely serious about beating your addiction, you should erase and/ or burn them all.
2.    Have a pal you trust come over to your home and block all pornographic sites. Your friend should protect the access with very strong passwords and should be the kind of friend who is strong enough not to be persuaded to tell you the passwords. Install filters for your internet, which is devoid of all sex sites and movies.
3.    Avoid friends who are porn- addicts. Keep off the temptation and you will gradually loose the desires. They may not like it, but it’s for your own good. If you want to re-establish your friendship with them, do so after you have gained the strength to say “NO” to porn.
4.    Remember you are not alone. Google for Kirk Franklin’s story and others like him who were once addicts, but are no longer because they found ways to eradicate the desire. Learn from their stories and let them be your inspiration.

5.    Seek new friends especially those that enjoy other interests such as sports. At the same time, diversify your entertainment so that it includes other interesting activities like drama, the arts e.g. these should consume some of that energy that you have been expending on sexual thoughts and desires. If your pattern is to watch the movies at night before sleeping, start reading books at that exact time or play action games to take your mind off.
6.    If possible, join a youth group within your neighborhood or national youth organizations like I CHOOSE LIFE (ICL) based in Riverside Drive, Nairobi Kenya, among others. This will introduce you to new friends, new ideas and new activities that will take your mind off sex/ pornography. For you to feel fulfilled and expended, make sure you are proactive when you do join.
7.    This may sound old, but stop dating until you are over the sexual urges. If you want to date, seek out a girl or dude whose principal interest in the relationship is not sex, you know, like those who believe in abstaining until marriage.
8.    Lastly and most important, develop a spiritual hunger for God. The closer you draw to God, the less you will want porn. Why? Because the last thing you will want to do is offend God by doing that which He does not like. Learn to seek God every day with your whole heart, mind, body and soul, and you will ultimately triumph over porno.

SOURCE: Straight Talk column, Eve Gal Magazine Pullout, the Standard newspaper by columnist Njoki Karuoya.

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