HOW DO I ASK HIM OUT?

One of the things many girls ask me when we are out and they spot a guy the like is, “how do I ask him out?”  Today; I want to tackle this from the male perspective.

LESSON 1: this is very core and important. Ask a guy out in a private conversation. You do not want to bear the brunt of rejection in public.

LESSON 2: check your diction ladies. They say, “Fake it till you make it!” but in addition to attractiveness, don’t have “sukuma” on your teeth or a strong rural accent.

Don’t approach a guy who is insecure of his masculinity. There are men who strongly believe in gender roles. There are guys who feel intimidated by women and would hate it to see your approach to him backfire.

Sometimes, it happens that the hunter wants to be hunted. So, if you think that guy you approaching will resume his ancient role of paying for the date, you are mistaken. If you ask a guy out, be prepared to pick up the tab. Some men may offer to pay, but the general expectation is that the asker foots the bill.

LESSON 3: When asking a guy out, be confident and bold. In fact, experts suggest that you buy a new undie or even bra. Sometimes new gives you a sense of freshness and newness. It provides a shield and boost of confidence-like wearing your hero outfit hidden beneath your street clothes. Make sure you are wearing the sexiest super-hero outfit you can find.

Don’t limit yourself Hun. Go wild. And I mean, if possible, walk over to him and simply state your feelings: “I think you are a good man, and I like you,” then see how he reacts.

So, would you ask a man out? As long as you keep away from the Neanderthal, look at your best, be friendly and confident, and confess in private, you should be fine; should you choose to.

By Embukane Vincent Libosso.