OVERCOMING PORNOGRAPHY…
There are
hundreds of people who get off on pornography, and many are addicted to the
movies and images. They find them exciting, erotic and many end up also getting
addicted to masturbation as a way of fulfilling their sexual appetites while
watching the videos.
Just as
there are many people addicted to porno, deep down I know there are just as
many people who want out. Who want to get away from the addiction and lead
different lifestyles? If you are one of those who want to stop, truth is, the
journey can be difficult, and just like any other addiction recovery is. The
story of leading gospel musician Kirk Franklin is an example, but he beat his
addiction and so can you.
HERE ARE A
FEW TIPS THAT CAN GET YOU STARTED ON YOUR JOURNEY…
1. Destroy all
sources of porno in your possession. Delete the internet videos and images. You
may be tempted to keep some of the images but if you are genuinely serious
about beating your addiction, you should erase and/ or burn them all.
2. Have a pal
you trust come over to your home and block all pornographic sites. Your friend
should protect the access with very strong passwords and should be the kind of
friend who is strong enough not to be persuaded to tell you the passwords.
Install filters for your internet, which is devoid of all sex sites and movies.
3. Avoid
friends who are porn- addicts. Keep off the temptation and you will gradually
loose the desires. They may not like it, but it’s for your own good. If you
want to re-establish your friendship with them, do so after you have gained the
strength to say “NO” to porn.
4. Remember you
are not alone. Google for Kirk Franklin’s story and others like him who were
once addicts, but are no longer because they found ways to eradicate the
desire. Learn from their stories and let them be your inspiration.
5. Seek new
friends especially those that enjoy other interests such as sports. At the same
time, diversify your entertainment so that it includes other interesting
activities like drama, the arts e.g. these should consume some of that energy
that you have been expending on sexual thoughts and desires. If your pattern is
to watch the movies at night before sleeping, start reading books at that exact
time or play action games to take your mind off.
6. If possible,
join a youth group within your neighborhood or national youth organizations
like I CHOOSE LIFE (ICL) based in Riverside
Drive , Nairobi Kenya
7. This may
sound old, but stop dating until you are over the sexual urges. If you want to
date, seek out a girl or dude whose principal interest in the relationship is
not sex, you know, like those who believe in abstaining until marriage.
8. Lastly and
most important, develop a spiritual hunger for God. The closer you draw to God,
the less you will want porn. Why? Because the last thing you will want to do is
offend God by doing that which He does not like. Learn to seek God every day
with your whole heart, mind, body and soul, and you will ultimately triumph
over porno.
SOURCE: Straight
Talk column, Eve Gal Magazine Pullout, the Standard newspaper by columnist
Njoki Karuoya.
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